The United States’ second leading cause of death for adolescents ages 10-29 is suicide, and with 95 percent owning smartphones and 45 percent saying they’re online almost constantly, it’s understandable that many point to social media as the cause for this devastating issue. But how accurate could these accusations really be?
Cyberbullying and online harassment is a real issue, with too many teens struggling in silence. While I haven’t personally experienced cyberbullying, I have friends who have, and I’ve seen how it has affected them. I’ve seen the light in their eyes fade when they read a snide comment, or watch a spiteful video about them, and I know how damaging this can be, not just on their reputation but on mental health. When others put you down, their voices get stuck in your head, and you mistake them for your own. These thoughts can lead to depression and even suicide.
In addition to cyberbullying, as many teens (including myself) scroll down our feeds, we develop an attitude of “compare and despair,” which can definitely diminish self-worth and esteem. We constantly compare ourselves to people thinking “wow, she has such clear skin,” or “he has so many friends.” With the addition of followers, likes, photoshop, and much more, these comparisons can quickly become unrealistic, negative, and damaging. However, it’s important to keep in mind that often social media images aren’t reality. We’ve all seen photoshop fail compilations and Instagram versus reality pictures side-by-side. Images can be manipulated, and it can be helpful to remind yourself and others of this whenever the “compare and despair” mindset comes into action.
Social media is not all ugly! It’s brought fulfillment to many people, including me, as a tool for networking, connecting, having fun, and unwinding. Especially during these times, I use social media to communicate with my friends and keep those relationships alive. Even if we can’t see each other in person, we can still talk, laugh, and connect. Teens can even meet new friends from around the world on social media and develop positive relationships with them.
The most important thing to keep in mind when it comes to social media is to engage in frequent, open, and honest discussions about how social media affects each of us and those around us. Throughout my life I’ve had a number of these conversations. Whether it’s with the school librarian, a parent, or a friend, they can all be extremely beneficial. It’s also helpful to think about positive changes we can make to improve our relationships with people, on and off screen. Even deciding that you and a friend will both block a toxic person is a step in the right direction. Talking about these topics can be challenging, but I think it’s the best way to prepare teens and adults alike for the ugly-side of social media.
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is 1-800-273-8255. For the Crisis Textline, text HOME to 741-741. For resources on cyberbullying, visit stopbullying.gov/cyberbullying.
Maggie Baribault lives in Antrim